From the desk of Sarah Harris:
Going through a divorce can be one of the most difficult periods of your life and you may not be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Although it may feel like the end of the world, life does go on and finding happiness after a divorce is possible. A divorce can leave you feeling abandoned, alone, and confused. It can be extremely difficult to recover after such a traumatic experience and doing it alone can be even more daunting.
The most important thing to remember is that divorce is only one chapter in your long life and getting on the road to recovery is essential to your success as an individual. Accepting your current situation will allow you to move forward in your life and help you pick up the pieces. Analyzing where you are in the moment will help you progress to a new and improved you and will help you in the long run to regain your happiness.
Once the divorce has taken place, try your best to move forward, but with caution. Many individuals have difficulty adjusting to being alone. They have been apart of a team, a unit and have a hard time thinking in terms of being single.
Remembering that you are responsible for your own happiness is essential to getting it back. You are no longer reliant on someone else, just yourself. Allowing yourself time to adjust to life divorced will be hard at first. Remember to take things slowly and one day at a time. You will notice your progress in just a short while.
It is important during this time to allow yourself a moment during the day to find some peace and quiet. This will help clear your head and help you relax after a stressful day at work, or after meeting with your ex-wife.
Although it will be hard, refrain from feeling sorry for yourself, or beating yourself up. This will only make you feel worse and will delay your recovery. Consider writing down all of the things you may be feeling instead of pointing out your flaws.
Try making one goal a week and focus on this goal in order to keep your mind staying positive and busy. Once you have accomplished these goals, you will feel much better about yourself and will be able to regain some self-confidence.
For some, divorce can offer a time for re-discovery.
Think about all of the things you have missed out on while being married whether that is a certain hobby, or a trip you never took. Try reinstating these things into your life and watch your happiness increase day by day. You may find out things about yourself you never knew and will probably regain your zest for life.
Having a friend or family member to talk to may also help rekindle some of your old passions. Being able to express your feelings to the ones close to you will help you remain optimistic and give you the support you need during this trying time.
Sometimes accepting challenges you may be currently facing is the best way to solve problems after a divorce.
Taking these challenges head on will not only encourage you, but will also help you feel better about yourself. Staying busy is a great way of keeping your mind distracted from negative feelings. Engaging in several activities will help you avoid getting depressed, or lonely. Try your best to stay positive and to be social. Getting out of the house can sometimes be a good cure if you’re feeling down and out.
Divorce is difficult for everyone and it is important to remember you are not alone.
When faced with this hard time, realize that it will pass and you will recover. Don’t be afraid to express how you are feeling with those close to you. This is only a moment in your life and before you know it, you will be happy again.
Oct 28, 2010
From the desk of Sarah Harris: