Sunday, January 1, 2012

Simple Activities in Getting Your Life Back After a Divorce

from the desk of Toni Okeson:
I know that it’s very hard to move on after a painful divorce. You can’t sleep thinking that you are the one to blame.  You can’t even eat. For some, they eat a lot. Either way, it’s not good for your health. You suddenly believe that you are worthless and helpless. You know that your kids need you. However, you can’t get up from bed. It’s as if your life is being sucked out from your system.
But do you really want to spend the rest of your life like that? You are not the only person who’s affected by your divorce. You have to think about your kids. You have to stand up from that misery. Don’t let a failed relationship ruin the rest of what you have left.
Here are some of the things which you can do to ease the pain from your recent divorce.
·         Re-arrange your home.  You are not only making yourself busy with this activity. You are literally starting a new life. If you will redecorate and rearrange your house, you stop having memories about your past life.

·         Buy self help books. Admit that you need help. It would be very hard to move on by your own. If you don’t want to spend thousands of dollars for therapies, you can just buy books. You can see these books all over. You don’t have to be ashamed if you purchase self help books. You are not the only and the first person who will do this.  


·         Give yourself a makeover.  I’m sure that you have heard of this. All your friends will suggest the same thing. After a harsh break up, you’ll feel and look devastated. It’s about time that you schedule an appointment in your favorite spa or salon. Totally change your hairdo. If you are used to having a short hair, get hair extensions. If you have a long hair, go for a short coiffure.

·         Call up your friends.  Because you have been locking yourself after the divorce, you missed all the fun hanging out with your best friends. It’s about time that you make up for the lost time. If you want, you can prepare a diner for them. Don’t be afraid to tell them what you feel. I’m sure that they will truly understand your situation.

·         Plan for a theme park adventure with the kids.  As I have said, your kids need you. You owe them a lot. Get some theme park coupons over the internet and spend the entire weekend with them. Also, remember to apologize for what had happened. If they have questions, try to answer those. Don’t get mad if they wanted to see your ex – husband. After all, he shares the same obligations to your kids.


·         Enroll in yoga, pole dancing or cooking sessions.  There are other choices for you. The bottom line, you need to do something which you haven’t done when you were still in a relationship. Think and be out of the box. You’ll meet new friends and learn more about yourself.
No one can blame you if you felt down during the first months of your separated life. But the most important thing is that you stand up. Your recovery period depends on your behavior and activities.


Toni Okeson is a mother of two and always checks for discount Theme Park Coupons before heading out with the kids. This site offers specials for just about every theme park in the U.S., including Walt Disney Coupons for all 9 of their U.S. parks

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